Firstly, to give credit to Danny Gold, who's posts on Twitter I've used in part of this blog.
I'm not a fan of the word 'cunnilingus' - it just doesn't sound sexy to me!
This is a guide on how to give good head, specifically how to eat pussy well!
There is plenty of info below which applies across the board, plus specifics on what I personally enjoy when you go down town with me ;)
For those with limited time who just want to get the gist of this blog...
TLDR
Tease and get her turned on.
Pussies aren’t dicks & don’t respond well to suddenly being grabbed or sucked (or finger rammed).
Start gently & slowly - this goes for the use of your mouth & tongue, as well as introducing fingers - tease!
Observe - take notice of her reactions & take your cues to proceed from them, or just ask.
Don’t hammer the pussy, expect an orgasm, or try to force one.
Practice good oral hygiene and clip and for the love of god FILE those nails.
No one is a ‘cunnilingus god’ & providers don’t *expect* you to give us an orgasm, so relax & enjoy our thighs as your ear muffs.
1 - Tease. A pussy is not a dick. It does not respond well by being suddenly grabbed or sucked. This is one of the biggest mistakes.
A pussy needs to blossom. You gotta give it reasons to. Gently breathe (do NOT blow ffs), let your warm breath touch our skin. Kiss / lightly lick the inner thighs, the area where thigh meets pussy (I personally love this the most out of everything!), use your hands gently on our body, pay attention to body language. When we open up and our body softens and moves toward you, you can proceed.
2 - Observe. Stop doing what *you* think would feel good to her or what *you* want to do. Each pussy is unique, and each pussy has a unique mood on different days. There is no cheat code, there is no formula. Just *feel* and listen to the pussy. Is she pulling back? tuning out? asking for more? Is she moaning, gasping, moving hips towards your mouth? Unless you’re dealing with a starfish, then you’ll get obvious signs of what we are enjoying (or not enjoying). Personally I give verbal cues too, like ‘mmm that right there feels so good’ ‘what you’re doing now is perfect’ etc.
3 - Technique - there isn’t going to be one set technique that every pussy is going to enjoy. So I can only speak to what I personally like. Start soft and slow as above. Tease. Long flat licks. Fast short flicking licks of the clit. Tracing an S shape up. Occasionally and GENTLY - ever so gently - sucking on my clit a little. Teasing me with a finger and then slowly inserting 1 finger and moving it slowly. Tip of tongue in widening and narrowing circles. Alternating between slow & fast - taking time with each.
4 - Ask. Do NOT try anything new/random without asking. Do not spit, suck, bite, penetrate, etc without asking! “Does this feel good?” “Do you want me to go harder?” “Do you like when I suck?” “Do you like when I use my hands?” “Would my fingers inside of your feel good?” “Would you like me to play with your ass?” “Do you need a break?”. Try to be specific in what you’re asking rather than too vague eg ‘what do you like?’. Remember what's incl and not incl within your booking. Ass play / Rimming isn't incl in my gfe bookings but is in dgfe/pse.
5 - Less is more. Unless we ask for more. To elaborate on number 1, keep in mind that often hammering on a pussy is not effective. It will cause most people to clam up and close off.
If they have opened and softened and are pushing into you or verbally asking for more - then go harder as they request if you want to. Don’t try to push through if they don’t cum. Take a break and slow the tempo and build it back up. It’s not a race.
5 - Expectations - Don’t *expect* someone to cum from 2mins of head. It can take from seconds to hours for someone to orgasm. If it hasn’t happened and you’ve had enough of going down, that’s totally ok. If it hasn’t happened and you’d like to keep going, simply ask her if there’s anything you can do or do differently - or it may be that what you’re doing is perfect and will make her Cum - but she just needs a bit more time! Be patient.
6 - Be consistent. Don't always or often try to switch it up and do pussy gymnastics. There is no code. This is intuitive work! Play gently until you feel our body respond deeply. Once you find the rhythm that works, stay consistent. Again, it’s not a dick. Don’t take the responsiveness as a cue to go harder! Instead recognize what you’re doing is perfect! You may slowly build up intensity but only as our body asks for it - pussies take time. If the rhythm stops building, again, start over. We aren’t here to cum, we’re here to enjoy the ride.
7 - Stop making it about you. If you *genuinely* want me/the escort you’re with to enjoy the oral sex you’re giving, then leave your ego out of it. Let us relax and be comfortable knowing that we don’t have to ‘perform’ for your enjoyment.**
Women are often sensitive to energy & may feel if you have expectations, or if you’re happy to just let us enjoy without having to perform.
Don’t *expect* to *make* anyone Cum. Period. We can still thoroughly enjoy it even if we don’t orgasm. Not orgasming might have nothing at all to do with you. We might just be too tired/hot/in our head/nervous/etc etc.
(It’s often the same for guys - a higher than you may imagine portion of men aren’t able to reach climax due to any number of things that actually have nothing at all to do with the person touching them. This will be covered in another blog)!
Don’t just say and do the right things, EMBODY safe, expectation-free, and selfless pleasure when giving head. This isn’t about your skills. It’s about the receivers pleasure.
**If you are paying for the companionship, time & services with an Escort, and you want a performance in response to your cunnilingus efforts then that’s fine, just be honest that it’s for your enjoyment, not ours, and that might be completely fine with your provider too (so long as you’re not causing pain etc). Personally it’s fine with me should you just want to do oral in whatever way turns YOU on, and receive a performance/ego boost from me in response (unless it’s painful or uncomfy for me ofc).
8 - Hygiene. Ensure you practice good oral health & hygiene. My pussy is pristine and I don’t want a mouth with poor oral health or hygiene near it. Same with your fingers and fingernails. At the beginning of the booking when you shower, ensure your hands & fingers & under your fingernails are nice and clean. Your fingernails should be clipped AND FILED before arriving also. Don’t forget filing is the most important part. Too many clients make the mistake of freshly clipping their nails, forgetting to file, then coming to the booking and trying to finger me (during oral or separately). This is painful - it scratches me and can make my vagina bleed. I have had to stop quite a few clients from using fingers on me as their nails were freshly clipped and sharp, or were jagged.
9 - Insertion. If wanting to slip a finger in whilst giving oral sex, either verbally ask (safest bet), or start using your fingers gently on the inside of the thighs, skin where thigh meets pussy, and outside pussy lips. If you receive the physical/verbal encouraging cues, eg pushing towards you, moaning etc, then you can proceed to use 1 finger to stroke around the pussy and opening. Again either ask if you can slip in a finger or receive the physical cues, and you can then continue to slip in 1 finger slowly & gently.
Don’t vigorously finger bash unless you’ve either asked or she’s asked you! Same goes for inserting multiple fingers - don’t just randomly do it, ask.
10Spitting / slobbering. This is a personal one and I’m unsure how others feel about this one. I love it when you’re having a good time with your face between my thighs! I love the feeling of your warm wet tongue on my warm wet pussy. What I don’t love is the feeling of extreme amounts of rapidly cooling slobber running down my bum and creating a big cold wet patch under me. Most who have given me head keep this from happening, but there have been a fair few who ‘slobber’. Spitting on my pussy is also something I find distasteful and a turn off.
Finally, it’s totally ok to just give it a go in a booking (if oral is incl of course!) and ask for pointers if you’d like to improve your skills / want for your partner to enjoy it. Or, to just do whatever turns *you* on (with consent & without causing discomfort to the receiver).
Everyone is different & will enjoy (and not enjoy) different things.
No one is a ‘cunnilingus god’.
Providers do not have expectations from clients to make us Cum or have amazing bedroom skills.
There’s only a short list all SWs expect from any clients;
Be polite & respectful
Follow our procedures
Do not cause us any harm or fear
Practice good all round hygiene incl shower & deodorant
Pay us
Anything else, including good head and orgasms, are just a really nice bonus!
Thanks for cumming to my head talk.